Exercise: Listen for the Longing Behind Your Partner’s Complaints

Excerpted from Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage by John M. Gottman, Ph.D., Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D., and Joan DeClaire. Copyright © 2006 by John M. Gottman, Ph.D., and Joan DeClaire. Published in the United States by Harmony Books, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York. All rights reserved.